The Joy of Asexuality

[snapdragon76]

Trying to type this up while listening to a podcast and people talking is kinda like walking and chewing gum at the same time…

Anyway, onto the point of this entry. I was having a ‘discussion’ (it was through comments on Facebook, so an actual discussion is stretching the definition a bit) with a friend of mine and I think we both came to a similar conclusion: I may actually be asexual.

Now whether this is a ‘result’ of being celibate for so long that I lost interest in sex, I dunno. I’m not sure it quite works that way. Now, granted, I am sexually attracted to other people (guys) and have had crushes now and then, but wanting to throw them down and ravage them… not so much. So it might be from more of an aesthetic point of view.

Now, I’m not saying I’m opposed to having sex (when/if I get married), but if it never happens to me, I’m not gonna be too utterly disappointed about it or anything. Frankly, the idea of sex kinda scares me a little bit. So I tend to avoid it. Never being in a relationship kinda helped in that matter, so there wasn’t any opportunity. But if there had been, I think it would have (and still would) freaked me out.

It actually kinda used to bother me that I never had a boyfriend and that I am still single at 34, but that’s not really the case anymore. I kinda like being single right now and it’s also a case of not missing what you never had. If it comes to a point in my life where I do meet someone and by chance we get married, then so be it. Never say never, you know. But I’m not banking on it at this point.

So maybe I’m semi-asexual? I dunno if there’s a ‘test’ or something to take or not. I’m not really into the label thing anyway…

Comments

[earthstar-moon.livejournal.com]

Totally agree with everything dqbunny said up above. I was never that interested in sex before I got together with Stu. In fact, I use to worry there was something wrong with for not being that interested in boys in high school.

And trust me, I know plenty of other girls who aren't crazy about the idea of having sex and of course there's nothing wrong with that. I know plenty of woman in their 50-60s who have never been married but are perfectly happy.

Heck, my great aunt who lived to be 97 never got married, and she was happy with her life. So, I wouldn't slap on the asexual label just yet. I see it as you're just happy with your life. ^_^

[snapdragon76.livejournal.com]

Well, like I was explaining to Meg, this is a something that I only htought about just recently and it arose from a conversation with a friend of mine who is Asexual and has been for quite awhile on. There are various levels of it, like people who date and find others attractive, but have no sexual desire whatsoever.

Maybe things will change in the future, maybe they won't. I don't know for sure.