here we go again...

[snapdragon76]

Well, turns out the Duggar’s are expanding. Again. It’s not the mother this time, but the daughter-in-law, which is a bit of a relief to me. I just hope she doesn’t follow the same path as her mother-in-law.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against children in general. I do believe they are gifts from God and I know there are couples out there who experience the pain of not being able to conceive. That being said, however, I do think it can be overdone in a manner of speaking.

When you have so many that it eventually begins to endanger not only the health of the mother, but the health of the child then you need to consider the consequences of your actions. Like the last time the Duggar’s had a baby, she was premature and had to stay in the NICU for a period of time as well as the mother having health issues of her own. That’s the point of time when you seriously need to ask yourself, “I think we’ve reached the point where it’s best to stop.” They have 20 so they’re legacy is assured and then some.

I mean, I admire them for be self sufficient and not needing to require any assistance from the government and are not in debt. That goes without saying. That does not mean I condone what they’re doing. And it’s not just because I don’t want any children of my own (mostly because I think I’d suck at it, but I also have health issues when it comes to carrying a baby).

I realize this might necessarily be a popular opinion, but this is my journal after all and I feel it’s something I needed to say. Plus, they don’t really need to announce it on national television every time one of them becomes pregnant, although I do realize there are people who find this whole circus a bit fascinating for whatever reason. I dunno.

Anyway, I think I’ve said all there is to say and I’ll be returning to whatever was going on before this public service announcement on my part.

Comments

[coastal-spirit.livejournal.com]

When I worked as a church secretary, a joke came through my office. The pastor and I laughed at it, although we both decided that it wasn't appropriate for the newsletter. It went something like this:

The pastor of a small church announced the birth of his sixth child, and said that he expected a salary increase, just as he had received at the births of the other five, since he now had one more mouth to feed. The parishioners reluctantly agreed, but several of them not-so-subtly suggested that this child should be his last, since their funds were getting low. The pastor said to them in a chiding manner, "Children are a blessing from God!" A little old lady in the back of the room stood up and said, "Well now, Pastor, rain is a blessing from God, too ... but when we get too much of it, we wear rubbers!"

And yeah, I totally agree with you, although I had never heard of the Duggars.

[snapdragon76.livejournal.com]

LOL, thaat was awesome! he heeee...

Here's (http://www.google.com/search?q=the+duggars&rls=com.microsoft:en-us&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&startIndex=&startPage=1) a good place to start off. I'm kinda surprised you haven't given that they make appearances on the Today show often, have their own reality show and are on the covers of magazines periodically.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I think people have a bit too much pressure to make babies. Makes them a bit dense to other elements. Especially if they already have some.

I like kids, but I have to admit, a lot of the people who have them around me nowadays scare me.

[snapdragon76.livejournal.com]

Oh, I totally agree. I mean, I admit to my biological clock ticking here and there, but I think I managed to shut it up for good.

Some people with kids can be very scary. I know some and it's like I wanna back away slowly...

I myself don't feel very comfortable around kids. I don't really know what to do with them. I've always been like that though. When I was a teenager, people would wonder why I never babysat. I guess when you're a teenage girl, everyone assumes you babysit. I just never felt very comfortable around little one, so I never did. Some people are just like that.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I've always been confortable around kids myself (used to work daycare) and I adore kids. People automatically assumed "OMG this means you probably want a ton of them! Did you think of names yet? I have names! wanna hear them!!!!!" And i'm like "woah" *backs away*.

I don't think liking or disliking kids determines whether or not you want some. Like I said, I love kids, but honestly, if I was having one at this very moment I would be panicked and horrified. I think it's a state of mind and a maturity that is required that a lot of people don't have, including people who have children.

[snapdragon76.livejournal.com]

Well, I definitely think you'd have to be comfortable around kids to work in a day care. And yeah, people who do that need to back off and not freak out about it.

Well, I'm still sorta undecided, but I'm definitely leaning more towards not. Just a personal preference. I do find that I am getting more comfortable around my cousin's little boy and he's about 3 or so. But then, I don't take care of him on my own, so I can achieve a familiarity without having to be solely responisble for his well being. Same cane be said for friends of ours we visited on vacation. They have a little boy there who is 4 and he became used to me, I became used to him. I guess it just depends...

And I totally agree about the emotional maturity part. I have another cousin who is having a baby soon and she has a lot of emotional issues and there is no way she is emotionally capapble of raising a kid.