There are varying degrees of Asexuality. And for me I a flat out Aromantic asexual. You, if you chose to fit under the lable of asexual, sound more like a hetero-romantic asexal. And a good number of us are generally the same way when it comes to sex and relationships. And it can be used as a "bridge" to finding your own sexuality, just like some gays and lesbians use the "Bisexual" thing as a bridge to coming out as simply homosexual. (My sister did exactly that.) Some use it simply as a way of explaining and summing up in one word that they have other things on the list of things to keep them content and happy that rank a heck of alot higher than sex.

People change, though and so do sexualities, and if at some point you think that the "asexy" lable no longer fits pull it off and put on a new one, its that simple. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you or that you are broken, it simply means your brain isn't wired for sex to be the ultimate goal in life.


I in general am the same way. I find guys aestheticly pleasing, have had several crushes IRL, and do in fact do the "Scratch that itch" my own though I usually don't think about anything. If I do end up having sex, whoo hoo... yay... if not I'm not missing anything. And I really don't think that simply by partaking in the act I'm going to be a sexual person or that it will change my opinion of being asexual, but for some people it does.